放手与放下

Had a conversation with Jessica last night. Despite not knowing her for very long, it was quite nice being able to talk to each other openly. Perhaps its the simple fact that we do not know each other very well, there is this sense of safety that whatever you are saying probably doesn't really make much sense to the other party anyway. Moreover, there's no conflict of interest and she probably does not even know most of the names being mentioned.

Anyway, the conversation inevitably led to the problems I've been having recently and she asked if I've gotten "over it". At the spur of the moment, I gave this reply: "Ya, I've 放手 already, but not yet 放下". The phrase lingered in my mind for the remainder of the night. Decided to give it a quick google and I found this article which breaks it down pretty well. So I will share it here:

放手与放下

以前我总以为,
放手曾经坚持的追求会很难,
现在才知道,
原来,
真正难的是放开.
放手是不再执者,
是停止追求,
因为你知道你的坚持不会得到你想要的结果.
那么,
只要你经常对自己说:
我已经放弃不要再坚持.
久之,
你就会说服自己对以往的执着放手.
可是,
心却被习惯束缚着,
习惯的认为那个还是你的目标,
习惯等待结果的心态,
也习惯追求不到的失落.
于是依然的,
会在心里介意着一些不应该介意的东西,
要彻底的放开比被说服的放手,
总是要滞后许久的,
正如认识错误比改正习惯容易.

http://blog.readnovel.com/article/htm/tid_603767.html